How Did I Get My Child To Sleep By Himself?

Long seven months had passed since I gave birth to my lovely first son Ahmed. He needed constant care which I was happy to provide for him, it is a blessing to care for such a tiny beautiful human being. I just had this one problem that was very stressful, Ahmed was very depending on me when it came to sleep. At first, he was sleeping on breast and then whenever I put him to bed, he wakes up instantly crying for me to hold him again.

After that rocking became his favorite way to go to sleep but then it started to be tougher for him to go to sleep and he became heavier and more resisting.

All this wasn't very important to me; i was willing to take it for him. The main problem was that after all this effort; he couldn't sleep alone when I put him to bed.

If you were having the same issue, all you need to do is to follow "Controlled management method" which is the best and most successful for stubborn kids like my child.

How controlled management method work?

First of all you must have consistent and fixed sleep routine for your kid. I usually give him a breast feed, change his diaper, and hold him for a minute to soothe him, switch off bright light, and put him to bed, sing, and play soft music.

You shouldn't follow the same routine; create your own according to you and your kid as I did.

The first night follow your routine and go out of the room wher he can't see you, wait for a minute and go check on him and spend another minute then go out again. Wait two minutes and come back for a minute, then wait for three minute and stay one minute, and so on until he gets to sleep.

Time intervals can be 2, 4, 8, .... Or 5, 10, 15,... Or whatever suits you. If your child was getting more upset when you come back, maybe you should wait outside until he sleeps. The first few nights will be very hard but think of his best interest and how relieved he will be when he learns to sleep on his own without needing to scream for you every time he wakes.

The program shall take between 3 to 14 days maximum and you will achieve the goal. Mine took about 3 days and he sometimes he protests now but it's way better than before.

Important thing to put in consideration if you decided to follow this approach, make sure that you're taking very good care of your baby during the day and that he is happy. Also, if the baby was sick during the program, stop it immediately and continue after he is well again. And if he is really upset or cries for very long time, maybe you should pick him up and try some other time. Finally do the same thing during day naps as well.

I love my son very much and I'm kinda spoiling him, the worst moment of my life when he cries, but this was going out of my hands and it started to affect my energy. I guess that some tough love wouldn't hurt.

Top Sneaky Ways To Keep Moisture In Your Body In Winter

Weather is already changing and it getting really chilly. This doesn't mean you should buy new boots only, but it also means to start applying extra things to protect your skin from drying. Today I'll share top sneaky steps celebrities do to protect their skin from dryness during winter.

Get away From Alcohol
This doesn't mean drinks which you should get away from due to all bad effects it have on body, mind, and skin. What you should really avoid is having skin products like toners and cleaners with alcohol in it, check your current cosmetics' label and if they have any alcohol types (other than lanolin, stearyl, and acetyl which are totally okay), then you should keep them to spring. you need to do that because alcohol is very hard ingredient that can remove humidity and moisture from your skin and we don't that to happen.
Take a warm shower
I know that it's the best thing in winter when you can have hot shower and enjoy the warmth, but actually is very harmful especially when you have a dry skin.
So if you can bear, try to lower down the heat few degrees only and have a warm shower instead for hot shower. Don't forget to apply some moisturizing lotion as well when you're in.
Invest in a Humidifier
Winter makes the air hard on your skin so, buy a humidifier in your house to get back moist to it. If you can't do so or it is difficult for you to plug such advice at home, then you can consider having plants in the room. Plants work as a natural humidifier as they get almost 90% of water you pour into them in the shape of moisture and Oxygen. Spider plants and bamboo are really great natural humidifier.
Depending on your skin type, choose cosmetics that work for it and apply simple at home masks that works for your skin type.
Personally, I love to prepare masks that contains yogurt, it is very moisturizing and can work for all skin types. My favourite yogurt mask is very simple, just beat some yogurt and apply it to your face for 15 minutes or until it’s dry, and then wash it off. I just can say that this is the best.
Another very good mask is corn flower mask, to prepare it, add about two table spoons of corn flour with some water or milk and mix them into a paste and spread on your face for 15 minutes.
These are the best sneaky tips to keep moisture

All You Need To Prepare For Giving Birth

Congratulations!! If you were interested enough to read this article, then most probably your due date is close, or you might want to be so happy with the baby that you want to know everything all together. Both ways, any mom to be must consider what to take in her way to give birth for the little one who is going to lighten your life. First thing you need to know is that the hospital will be ready with most things your baby needs. So, don't feel that you have to get lots of things.

Actually I did this mistake and prepared a big bag that was no use for me. Here are the things I actually needed:

- Clean towel and comb

- Comfy slippers

- Under wears like the ones used during pregnancy " don't rush for bikini" and take more than one in case of excess bleeding

- Robe and something comfortable to wear after giving birth.

- 2 of clothes the baby needs in case one of them was small or not good enough for him or her.

- Hat, socks, and blanket Cause the baby is still familiar with your womb warmth.

- Car seat but I actually was holding him and I didn't take one.

That's it pretty much. You don't have to get diapers, pads, shampoo, or anything else. The hospital will take care of it.

It is also important to get a camera to picture your angel's first look and to get the first photo with your baby.

You will be very tired. So, you should have someone to be with you like your partner or mom and to be with them even when you go home to help you for the first couple days.

Also when my due date was very close, I went to the salon to have my hair done, get a new cut and to have a facial mask. This really helped me to feel kind of beautiful and ready for the new life I’m going to have and it helped me a lot cause I have thick and frizzy hair that could have become really ugly if it was not done already.

You are entering a new phase of life that could be very hard and stressful at the beginning but I assure you that you will feel overwhelmed with happiness as soon as you get used to it. I am currently not sleeping more than 5 hours but I totally love it

Eat With Your Child And Lose Weight

Busy moms have this guilt of not dedicating every single moment of life to their children, we have this feeling that we're always not giving them the care they need. So, we tend to ignore ourselves in order to make use of all time we have together.

Logically this will make you lose weight, however, what really happens that you start gaining extra pounds. What really happens is that your body is starving so, whenever you eat anything, it will automatically store fat instead of burning it to help you do the regular routine you have. This fat will be stored in belly, bottom, arms, and thighs.

Now if you really want to lose weight, STOP starving yourself, stop skipping breakfast, stop eating junk, and stop not taking care of yourself. I know this seems difficult especially for moms who have toddlers less than one year but they have easy recipes.

For moms who have toddlers over one year old the best thing is to cook for both of you, the baby needs fresh, healthy food and you should take advantage from that.

Here are some recipes that you can both be enjoying together:

- Post pregnancy shake that mainly consists of banana and raspberry which have great effect on losing belly fat.

- It is also important to have snakes every 4 hours for you and the baby like:

Yogurt lollipops

Crispy apple chips "all you have to do is cutting apples into very thin slices, sprinkle some cinnamon over it and put into oven till golden and crispy.

You can also bake some sweet potato until tender, let it cool, remove the skin, cut into cubes, and then sprinkle some ground cinnamon over the top of it.

- Everyday I make a very healthy breakfast for both my 7 months old child and I consisted of an egg, processed cheese triangle, and a small portion of basic oats recipe that I prepare by just adding some boiled water to oats and leave it for only 5 minutes. You can add sugar or not but I find it great the way it is. Oats are very healthy and I was surprised that he loved it over cereals.

Also remember to eat and give your child lots of greens and fruits to make him healthy and make you lose that extra weight.

Food is essential for all of us whether young or old, you cannot stop eating to be thinner. All you have to do is starting to choose more healthy options that you will gladly offer to your kid who will be happier seeing you eat the same healthy way you want to provide for him.

after birth, how to

i had my first son 6 months ago and i remember my self after 3 weeks after birth asking when the heck are his parents coming to take him? Or at least give me a manual to figure out the little monestar
Now i wouldn't give him to any body in the world. I just needed someone to stop the cute lies and tell me the truth about it so that i can expect what will come and deal with it.if you are a new, first time, or expecting mom, you need to know this:

• Sleep as much as you can when possible:

never get enough of sleep till you give birth,it's going to be very rare when the kid arrives.
If you gave birth already, don't wait to do something else when your child sleeps. Your rest is more important than chores.Cooking and cleaning will be better done while you're rested

• Ask for help: 

Don't be shy to ask your partner's help. men don't realize your need for a minute of silence, they want youu to ask them for what you need exactly.

• Cook more:

I almost wasn't cooking in the first three months after birth. When i knew this secret, my life changed and it became a good habit.
When you have the time cook more than one meal or cook big amounts. Use one and refregirate the rest. This will help you so much if you were having a bad day, all you will need to do is grab something ready to cook.

• Eat well:

Don't underestimate the importance of food in this process. You need to eat balanced amounts of protine, fruits, vegetables, and every single nutritious food you can think of it.Leave the wish of losing pregnancy fat fast and always know that breast feeding and the effort done for the new baby will burn most of the fat.
I lost every single pound gained during pregnancy after the first six months. Actually i think that having a baby is a golden chance to lose weight.Having a baby is a nightmare for the first month, a huge effort, for the first three or four months, but after that it all turns to be the best event of your life when you see the litttle human being you carried for 9 months laughing and babbeling. His smile will worth the world to you.
I also recommend you to read about after birth and there is tons of information you can find online
And remember that millions of moms have done it before and they ain't better than you. congratulations.

sleepless and lovin it

For weeks, you’ve gone to the bathroom three times every night, slept faithfully on your side instead of your back, and snacked in the wee hours of the morning. Making a baby is hard work, even when you’re trying to sleep. And once your prince or princess is born, the string of sleepless nights is just beginning.
A forty-something friend has been trying unsuccessfully to have a baby for many years. Last week, she gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. When she talks about that one-week old miracle, she glows. Even though she’s sleep deprived and exhausted from nursing, she is radiant. So what’s the secret to being a totally new mom who is full of joy?

1. Relish the moment. When you’re looking at your tiny baby, whether it’s after a diaper change or as you’re feeding him or her, consider the words to this song "Miracle of the Moment" by five-time Grammy winner Steven Curtis Chapman:
So breathe it in, breathe it out. Listen to your heartbeat. There’s a wonder in the here and now. It’s right there in front of you. And I don’t want you to miss the miracle of the moment.

2. Put your baby’s early days in perspective. Remember what it took to get you to this place and let your heart fill with gratitude for being a mother. When things get tough, think of how quickly these days will pass. Before you know it, you’ll be taking your child to soccer practice or violin lessons in a minivan.

3. Eat right and exercise. Being healthy isn’t just good for your waistline; it’s a great way to lift your spirits. It’s proven that enjoying a variety of good nutritious food will help manage depression and elevate your mood. Try eating super foods like salmon, spinach, peas, chickpeas, chicken and turkey. Do light stretches and walking after baby is born as long as you’re comfortable doing so.

4. Simplify your life. Having a newborn is a full-time job. This isn’t the time to take on a new project. Your house doesn’t have to be perfectly clean. Emails don’t have to be answered on the same day they’re received. Focus on being a new mom. Don’t be afraid to say no to others.

5. Put something for yourself on the calendar. Being a new mom is a job unlike any other. There are no coffee breaks, evenings off, or pretty suits to wear. You are a 24-hour caregiver. To make the most of your new role, plan things that will renew your mind, body and spirit. Don’t just have good intentions about taking care of yourself. You have to put it in the calendar or it won’t happen. Schedule things like: Monday night, 30 minutes of reading all by myself while my husband watches the baby. Have events to look forward to so you don’t drown in the monotony of diapers and feedings.
The first weeks and months with your baby are some of the most special days of your life. Smile often, take lots of pictures, and remember to enjoy the miracle of the moment.